Good family tradition
Main the purpose of traditions — to tell us how to behave in a given situation. And to do it without much thinking. Usually it is quite convenient.
Where, for example, to celebrate the New year? Someone will suffer, to think of something good family traditions, and someone knows the answer to the question: the night we always have, utesi or a large company go to friends to the cottage. While all pre-painted: we bring salad and fruit, Ivanov — home-made wine and cake, and Dima is preparing a leg of lamb.
Tradition can “build” our lives literally brick by brick: for Breakfast you should eat cereal, a festive table isn’t imaginable without pie, we clean the apartment on Saturdays, and we’ve taken vacations at sea. And why so, we do not think. However, the answer will probably not find — just initially formed.
Custom or dogma?
There is another function of good family traditions, although at first glance it may seem side: they determine the degree of viability of a “body” that supports them.
It is here and is the “watershed” between the customs of the living and the dead. Last mean blindly following a routine once someone order. Usually they settle for those who are too lazy or too busy to take the initiative to create something of your own, because for any innovation to take responsibility.
Living traditions, on the contrary, they make life more fun, evoke imagination, and fortify the relationship between people.
With its Charter.
Each family has its own customs. They concern: how to arrange the room, distribute duties, to raise children, what to cook for the holiday table, where to relax. We think differently and simply can not be. We got used to it — and all.
This is especially true at the beginning of family life, when the young couple only lapped each other. In “their” family they come from parent, which were instituted certain rules. And my husband is difficult to understand the requirements of the wife: why does he have to follow different rules, and not to those used. If time does not agree not to adapt, not to find a compromise, resentment and frustration are inevitable. If your family has not yet acquired the customs, should not “drag” them all together from the father’s house. Try to develop your own, given the interests of her husband.
Easiest, good family tradition “attached” to weekends and holidays, because these days assume that the whole family is together and in high spirits (one word — holidays). Choose one of the holidays that you would like to transform, — for example, wedding anniversary. Arrange with friends that you will all do these days “national”: one will have a party in English style, the other — in German, the third — in Japanese. Pick up music, outfits, decorate the house, prepare the appropriate dishes, swipe the “popular” games.
In the family circle obzavelis daily traditions. Think of some original way to greet and say goodbye with her husband.
For a child, will do the ritual bedtime: children love to whisper to my mother, listen to the story or a simple lullaby.
The Sabbath tradition can become a family “publication”: sightseeing, cinema, theatre, bowling. Precondition: clear repeatability of I. the element of surprise. And again, this should please everyone!
At the may holidays you can go into the woods — bonfire, barbecue, games in the fresh air. Romance and adventure — what could be better!
Family album. Unfortunately, most of us know little about their relatives beyond the third degree. Collect photos of their grandfathers and great-grandmothers, furnish them with at least brief information — let your children, and then grandchildren remember their family.
Modern move. Scan old yellowed photos and make them web album. Make sure to attract to this process of children — they will matter, at the same time feel part of a big family.
Letters from nowhere
If you still have romantic correspondence and grandparents, moms and dads, don’t hurry to throw these messages. Put them in a transparent file folders that the time has not damaged the paper, postavi date. Trust me: your “computerized” descendants will be interesting to see the epistolary genre of their ancestors — this is not a fictional work of an unknown literary classic, but a real novel.